The things we tell ourselves can make us or break us. There have probably been times you said to yourself, “I’m not good enough,” “I can’t do it,” or “I have no choice.” This kind of “self-talk” happens to everyone once in a while, but when we start to tell ourselves things like this all the time, we can end up believing them.
But that’s also true of the good things we tell ourselves. So if we’re going to believe what we tell ourselves, doesn’t it make more sense to tell ourselves good things?
Here are three good things to practise telling yourself. Are they all true? You better believe it.
"I am worth it."
Many times you are not able to accept good things happening in your life because you do not feel that you deserve it. Like most people, maybe you have not been truly and unconditionally accepted in your life, and now you may have a hard time accepting yourself and believing you are worthy.
To help you see how we can sabotage our own best efforts, try this: Every day for a week, look in the mirror and say “I am a good person.” You will likely hear lots of disagreeing voices from within you, saying things you do not accept about yourself. Just accept those parts of yourself that are not accepting. It will take practice, but eventually you will begin to believe you deserve positive things in your life, because you will begin to see yourself as a worthy human being.
You are worthy of love, success and happiness.
“I can do it.”
Believing in yourself means not blaming anyone or anything for your situation. By taking responsibility for what happens in your life, and not blaming anyone—including yourself—you give yourself power, purpose and energy. All these things strengthen your belief that you can do anything you want to, and that is a big step forward.
Taking responsibility also means being willing to make mistakes and learn from them. Mistakes aren’t the problem, but making the same ones over and over can be. It takes inner strength to admit when you have made a mistake, but others will respect you for it. More important, you will respect yourself.
You have more potential within you than you may believe.
"It’s my choice."
Sure, there have been many things that have affected you over your life. But those things are not the biggest factor in where you are today. Your day-to-day decisions are. These decisions are what create the patterns and many of the conditions in your life. It’s not always easy to see the connection, but life has a way of bringing us exactly what we need to learn.
You can move your life in whatever direction you choose.
